Not the Proverbs 31 Woman

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I wouldn’t be surprised to hear some groans…not another “Proverbs 31 woman” teaching.  I’m with you.  I have read enough books, blogs and articles on how we should strive to be like her.

She has some pretty high standards to live up to.  And honestly, I don’t need yet another reason to feel guilty as a woman.

In case you need some reminding (which you likely don’t), let’s consider the whole of who this woman is.  She is what many have described as being the “ideal” wife, mother, worker and housekeeper.

Many a woman has tried to live up to her standards.  Not that I’m knocking it.

After all, not only is she a woman with strong character and integrity but she is quite industrious.  She rises before the sun is up and works late into the night.

She is considered to have great worth in the eyes of her husband, who trusts her with all things.  She would never bring him harm, only good as long as they both shall live.  So I guess that means she never kicked her husband out of the bed for snoring, huh?

And one day her children will rise up and call her blessed.  In other words, they will recognize the remarkable woman she is.  That certainly sounds appealing, doesn’t it?

We read about her and then we take a look at our life and all we can think about is the many responsibilities that weigh upon our shoulders.  Some days we don’t even know which direction we are going.

Our lives are too busy to strive to be like her.  There must have been something different about that time period which allowed her to be superwoman.

We think we live busy lives?  Let’s take a closer look at some of what she accomplished.

She made her children’s clothes.  All I have to do is go to the nearest Kohl’s Department store and within half an hour my children are set.

The Proverbs 31 woman brought her food from afar.  She didn’t have a grocery store five minutes from her home like I do.

She did some investing and with her money, planted a vineyard.  I am lucky if I remember to water the wilting plants in my yard.

She even made the coverings for their beds.  I picked mine up from Walmart.

Not only that, but on the side she made linen garments and sold them.  Who has time to do something on the side?

She is vigorous, strong and giving.  Some days I am lazy, weak and selfish.

The Proverbs 31 woman can laugh at the days to come, while I tend to worry.  She speaks with wisdom, when I sometimes wonder what in the world caused me to say what I did.

Looking at her from this angle, I realize how short I really fall.  But then again, I also know that she was never meant to be a formula.

While there is much we can learn from her, we have to be willing to accept who we are.  I will likely never rise to the place of being the Proverbs 31 woman.  But I am the best wife, mother and housekeeper I can possibly be.  And for me, that’s good enough.


3 thoughts on “Not the Proverbs 31 Woman

  1. A couple of things I find comforting:

    The Proverbs 31 woman probably never existed. Like most of Proverbs, she is an expression of Wisdom. Essentially, she expresses how to be caring, trustworthy, and wise. She puts her family first. These are things I can work toward!

    No one said I had to do these things all at once! Yay!


  2. Bah. That last line of my previous comment ended up in the wrong spot. If you could ignore it, I would be grateful. Thanks!


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