The Thing About Mistakes

Photo by jdurham in morgueFile

Photo by jdurham in morgueFile

The thing about mistakes is that most times we don’t know we are making them.  In the midst of a mess, who can see the truth?  So it’s oftentimes not until you look back that the veil is uncovered.

The thing about that…is you can’t change anything.  You can’t go back.  You don’t get a do-over.  BUT—depending on the circumstances, it may warrant an acknowledgment to your child that you made the mistake.  And with that, an apology.

The thing about mistakes is that the repercussions sometimes aren’t felt until years later.  When your child comes back and says, hey I’m messed up because of you!  Or they suddenly find themselves sitting in a therapist’s office trying to sort through their past.

Yet…the thing about mistakes is that most of the time they aren’t as huge as we think they are.  In fact, they are oftentimes blow out of proportion by our own skewed thinking or the enemy’s attempts to heap on guilt and shame.

Life is filled with mistakes.  Parenting allows for an abundance of them to be made.  But very few will be life-altering or destructive.  Most are the result of a parent’s genuine attempts to do right.

Mistakes aren’t necessarily wrong.  They are learning experiences.  They allow for teachable moments in which we and our children can grow.

Yet we make so much more out of them than they really are…that’s the thing about mistakes.

© 2012, Stephanie Romero

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