Have you ever thought about that? Would your kids consider you to be a fun mom?
I have to admit, when my children were younger, I wasn’t much fun. I was trying to keep three young kids in line and for a long period of time, educate them as well. I didn’t have “time” for fun. It was all about getting from point A to point B.
Even back then, I’m sure deep inside I recognized a need to loosen up. But I think there were two issues holding me back. One is my Type A personality. I’m all about setting goals, checking off my to-do list and productivity. No time for games…we have things to accomplish!
But I also believe that the other issue which held me back was fear—that by lightening up a bit I might lose control. I don’t thrive well in chaos. I’m not one who likes surprises. I like to have all my ducks in a row and as soon as one of the little duckies has gotten off course, I’m in panic mode.
I always admired those parents who could, at the drop of a hat, take their kids to the park. For me, it had to be scheduled in. I longed to be the type of mom who wouldn’t freak out because Little Johnny decided it was more fun to strip naked and run through the sprinkler.
Now that’s not to say I was a total dud. Every-once-in-awhile the “wild” side of me would emerge and you’d catch me throwing a snowball. For those who live for fun, it might not sound very impressive. But for my kids that was mom letting go.
I don’t know at what point in my life that changed. I can’t exactly put my finger on it but I eventually started to loosen up. My undies weren’t as bunched as they used to be. I started to find enjoyment in things that would have normally stressed me out.
At least I can say that during my children’s lives as teenagers, mom has been more fun. Of course, if you were to ask one of them, they might describe it more as “lame” or “strange.” But I can make them laugh—something I wasn’t very good at before.
Sometimes I surprise them—even embarrass them—when I really let loose. But I know that I’m more enjoyable to be around. I would hate to live my entire life as a sourpuss. It’s too short.
Take time to have fun with your children. If it comes naturally, be grateful. If it takes more work, be willing to put forth the effort. No one has ever looked back on their life and thought to themselves, “I had too much fun.”
© 2013, Stephanie Romero