How to Avoid Feeling Like a Failure

946ea361004ec69d0c463f2e8a2dce90One of the worst feelings in the world is failure, especially in parenting.  But I think I’ve found the solution to avoid feeling this way.  It’s nothing profound.  In fact, you may have already discovered the answer


Ready for it?


If you want to avoid feeling like a failure…stay away from Pinterest, Instagram and Facebook. In other words, avoid all forms of social media.


1352562720450_1717891It’s too in your face.  You can’t avoid the crafty ideas that never quite turn out as pictured.  You can’t ignore the fabulous family vacations you could never afford to take.  And you can’t scroll through the newsfeed fast enough to miss the great accomplishments you know will never be yours because your child is too stubborn, too rebellious, too whatever you want to fill in the blank with or has physical/mental limitations.


Social media has a way of emphasizing your perceived “lack of.”  I know, because this used to be a huge struggle for me.  The truth is, avoiding social media won’t fix this.  It’s only a temporary solution to a much deeper issue.


Finding contentment in your situation (whatever it is), comes from security—not in your parenting—but IN CHRIST.  Security in who you are IN CHRIST.  Security in who your children are and who they will become IN CHRIST.


Don’t look to others in your family or circle of friends to feel better about yourself as a parent.  And you certainly shouldn’t look to those who are on your friends list, yet you’ve never spoken to in person.


Whether what you see on social media is the real deal or a front, makes no difference.  The bigger issue is getting to the root of why it causes you to feel like a failure.  It’s not that you need less of social media.  It’s that you need more of Christ.


© 2015, Stephanie Romero


2 thoughts on “How to Avoid Feeling Like a Failure

  1. Words well spoken Stephanie. I agree 100% about social media. I stay away myself and I know that much of that is due to my own social insecurities. Whether that is a good thing or not it does cause me to take a closer look at my own relationship with Jesus. Would these things have mattered to him? I think not. The path is narrow that we must walk, going off course can be time consuming and cause us to lose sight of our destination. Thats how I see it anyway. Keep up the good work. Bless you.


    • We each have to evaluate our use of social media and it’s impact on us–not just on parenting but socially in general. Glad to hear it’s causing you to take a closer look at your relationship with Jesus. That’s what it’s all about. Thanks for taking the time to comment! Blessings on you and yours!

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