One of the worst feelings in the world is failure, especially in parenting. But I think I’ve found the solution to avoid feeling this way. It’s nothing profound. In fact, you may have already discovered the answer
Ready for it?
If you want to avoid feeling like a failure…stay away from Pinterest, Instagram and Facebook. In other words, avoid all forms of social media.
It’s too in your face. You can’t avoid the crafty ideas that never quite turn out as pictured. You can’t ignore the fabulous family vacations you could never afford to take. And you can’t scroll through the newsfeed fast enough to miss the great accomplishments you know will never be yours because your child is too stubborn, too rebellious, too whatever you want to fill in the blank with or has physical/mental limitations.
Social media has a way of emphasizing your perceived “lack of.” I know, because this used to be a huge struggle for me. The truth is, avoiding social media won’t fix this. It’s only a temporary solution to a much deeper issue.
Finding contentment in your situation (whatever it is), comes from security—not in your parenting—but IN CHRIST. Security in who you are IN CHRIST. Security in who your children are and who they will become IN CHRIST.
Don’t look to others in your family or circle of friends to feel better about yourself as a parent. And you certainly shouldn’t look to those who are on your friends list, yet you’ve never spoken to in person.
Whether what you see on social media is the real deal or a front, makes no difference. The bigger issue is getting to the root of why it causes you to feel like a failure. It’s not that you need less of social media. It’s that you need more of Christ.
© 2015, Stephanie Romero