Deep down you know your child deserves an apology. Yet you wrestle with saying the words…I’m sorry.
Maybe it’s pride standing in the way. It could be that you never received an apology from your own parents. Or you just don’t believe that someone in a position of authority should have to apologize. In some cases it might be you don’t believe you’ve done anything wrong.
But here’s why “I’m sorry” are the two words every mom (and dad) should say to their children:
It shows you care about your child’s feelings.
When someone else’s reaction is over the top, when another person wrongs us or accuses us of something…it’s natural to feel hurt (or angry, embarrassed, etc.). The point is that you FEEL something and our children are no different. By not apologizing, you are dismissing their feelings. But when you acknowledge your mistakes, it shows you care.
It holds you accountable.
Regardless of the fact you’re an adult and the parent, it’s important to recognize our wrongs. Apologizing holds us accountable for our actions and will cause us to think twice before making the same mistake again.
It demonstrates humility.
Children should respect their parents…no question. But that doesn’t mean we don’t mess up and when we do, that we just brush it under the rug. Sometimes we have to swallow our pride and admit to our wrongs. Saying “I’m sorry” is one way we can demonstrate humility to our children.
It fosters forgiveness.
Unless we apologize for our mistakes, there isn’t much room for finding forgiveness. And it’s not enough to say “I’m sorry.” Asking our child’s forgiveness helps him/her to grow in this biblical principle…not only in that they will seek forgiveness when they have done wrong but they will more likely forgive others who hurt them.
© 2015, Stephanie Romero